Executive Women: The Myth of Having it All

having it all“Having it all” – from executive women’s perspective that means having a personal life and career. Why is it still almost impossible today?

There is a work-life balance problem that is seen mainly as female related – and no level of feminism and equality are showing satisfactory results. Unfortunately, we are still living in a society where personal choice is seen as a possibility to attack someone. With the level of privacy close to zero, it is understandable why people feel like they have the right to have an opinion on other people’s decisions. There are three main points that you would have to address when you decide to combine career and family but they work the same if you as a woman decide that you don’t want to have children.

1. The enemy at home – For some women family is very important and they might feel like they are betraying their expectations. The role of a stay-at-home mother is accepted as a rule but a successful executive can’t see the full value of leaving the daily activities that bring her joy. What you can do – Talk with your spouse about your plans of managing a family before getting pregnant and even before your engagement. If you are not on the same page, chances are you will never be. If he believes your place is at home, while you are planning to go back to the office as soon as possible – talk about it!

2. The enemy at work – The biggest problems you might face at work. You might see less important projects sent your way, less long term plans, less of everything. Even if your managers and leaders know about your decision to get back in the office as soon as possible, they just don’t rely on you. It would take a lot more to convince them  – you might never even succeed with that. What you can do – Ask for more responsibilities but don’t overfill your agenda. Know your limits and show that to your co-workers. If they see that you are confident and nothing is changing, they will even trust you more. The problem might even be trickier in Europe if you don’t ever want to have kids because women are still expected you to surprise them with a pregnancy – most people would not understand your decision and keep on insisting you would change your mind.

3. The enemy within you – You think the society is your biggest enemy but it might actually you. You can’t win this fight without creating awareness. My advice is to question your thoughts and your beliefs system – why do you really care what people are saying about you? Are they an important part of your life? If you decide to pause your career and be a housewife and mother, they would say you throw away so many great chances. If you go back to work soon after work, they would say you are a bad mother (Do you remember the articles about Marissa Meyer when she took over the CEO position at Yahoo just 3 months after giving birth?). If you say you don’t want to have kids,  they would try to prove you are lying and you are just a lonely feminist. What you can do – Believe in yourself and trust the decision you made based on your core values. A reality check of your values and beliefs will help you understand why what other people think about you affect you so much and overcome the challenge. Awareness about your self imposed limitations is your way to design your life on your own terms. This last enemy is the biggest of those three. If you are not willing to make a choice, or if you are not 100% confident about it, you might never feel like “you have it all”. Remember – happiness is a state of mind that depends on you.   A study conducted last year  by networking giant LinkedIn and Cross-Tab, shows that 63% of women find success in the possibility to achieve and maintain a good work-life balance:

Infographic- Women have it all
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Are you trying to find the right decision? Do you need a guidance on the topic? Here are 2 solutions:

 

1. Check our video interview with Laura S Scott – She talks about prioritizing, taking strategic decisions and being childless by choice.

2. Book a coaching session – We have already helped other women like you who were afraid of taking the wrong decision. We can help you understand what YOU really need and how you can make it happen.

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What Do You Gain by Leading Out of Fear?What Do You Gain by Leading Out of Fear?

Courtesy of HubspotWhat kind of leader are you? Are you loved or feared?

There are many different kinds of leadership styles, but the one that is most detrimental is leading out of fear. Sometimes when leaders are afraid they express it through the way they lead their employees. This can make you aggressive and feel like you are in control, but in reality you are not.

According to Laurie K. Cure, PhD, author of the book “Leading Without Fear”, there are three main reasons that leaders resort to spreading fear:

 1-Need to establish a sense of urgency. It may seem that instilling fear in your workforce and team members may be the most effective and fastest way to create a sense of urgency, which does work in the short-term. But, it can create mistrust and cynicism, which can lead to diminished morale.

 2-Don’t know of any other way. Frequently new entrepreneur leaders reach a point where they become desperate when dealing with others and hope that they can scare, shame, or anger people into changing their behavior or creating desired results.

3-Engulfed in the flames of their own fear. Sometimes leaders may use fear simply because they are afraid and are incapable of hiding it. It takes great skill and discipline not to project your fear onto others. Leaders can become blind to how they may be utilizing fear in their leadership, whether it is caused by the fear for their security, self-esteem, sense of affiliation, etc.

Leading with fear has devastating consequences which appear when you look at the long run effects. Here are some of the consequences or negative effects that can happen:

◐ Lack of shared vision and not everyone is on the same page.
◐ Not reaching full potential.
◐ Deficiency of full engagement from employees and loss of productivity.
◐ High turnover rates.
◐ The team may stay in “safe” positions, giving competitors an advantage.
◐ The stifling of creativity, innovation, and change.
◐ The limitation of rational discussions of alternatives, which can lead to poor decisions or lack of action.
◐ Creates mistrust and suspicion of the leader.
◐ Changes the focus of the company from the customers to internal survival.

If you find that you are leading with fear or have been told that your leadership style is too aggressive, there are ways that you can reduce your fear or at least keep it in check so that you can avoid the terrible consequences. Here are some suggestions:

◐ Increase your own self-awareness. This is basically your ability to know yourself, your personality, your drives, your motives, and your fears. By identifying these things you will become more aware of how you deal with things or act/react in different situations. Why do you do the things that you do? Becoming more aware of yourself will allow you to grow, learn, and become empowered. Self-awareness entails an ongoing practice that becomes a lifestyle.

◐ Be clear on all your goals and have regular communication with your team. This will allow for everyone to be on the same page and work towards common goals. Have a clear vision so that when it comes to decision making, you and your team can ask “how does this help us achieve our vision?” This will open up conversations to new ideas, new opportunities, better communication, constructive feedback, and reinforcement of strong ethics. This will also increase the team’s ability to identify risks and will avoid anyone from feeling dissatisfied, torn, or afraid.

◐ Focus more on the positive side of risk. In most cases, you will not be able to eliminate risk, but you may be able to reduce it. And you will have a better outlook if you stop concentrating on everything that could go wrong and focus on the success and rewards that you and your team will be able to celebrate once the obstacles are surpassed; anticipate the good instead of dreading the bad.

If these things are hard for you to practice all at once, just think, if you’re going to be afraid, be afraid of never accomplishing your goals or mission. That thought will give you courage, which will allow you to confront your fears. Courage is not the absence of fear, but the ability to overcome it. Courage has a destination; it looks ahead, not back.

So, what are you afraid of not accomplishing at work or in life if you let fear hold you back from reaching them? Join the discussion on Facebook and Google Plus.

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Delegating Tasks – Asking for Help the Right WayDelegating Tasks – Asking for Help the Right Way

Delegating TasksDelegating tasks is one of the main responsibility of a manager – it seems so easy on theory and so useful to have someone help you do the things you need to accomplish.

The truth is often different from the dream – you assign a simple task to a co-worker or team member and you feel intimidated by the possibility of his failure or great success. If you can’t trust that the execution would be great, you better wonder which of your insecurities are hiding there. We are here to help with some great tips that will ease your life, gain you more trust and support from the co-workers and win managers on your side.

1. Assess the tasks and opportunities – Does it require specific knowledge? Who in your team has the qualifications to do it? Think of it as a way of getting to know people in the team better. If you are just starting to work with them, they would really appreciate you being thoughtful when assigning tasks – and they would value you more.

2. Set a deadline – This is crucial – you might know the due date but give the assigned team member a bit more time. This will give you the opportunity to fix things if they are not perfect and to react if the task is not done at all. And it’s much more easier to delegate a task when you know you still have time to do it yourself. Just don’t be too cautious or your work will double in time and quantity.

3. Ask politely – Now that you know who can do it and when does it need to be done, go ahead and ask. Maybe your first choice is fully booked with other tasks? If you are the team lead, make sure they understand they can turn down the task if they have no time on their schedule.

4. Don’t be overprotective – If you are going to delegate a task to someone else, remember that he carries the responsibility to follow the instructions and the deadline you assigned him. Don’t ask if he needs help every other hour – let him work on his own pace.

5. Say “Thank you” – As strange as it may sound, people forget to say those magic words. And they can mean a lot – even if the task is simple and it’s an official part of the work characteristics of your team. Showing appreciation for the good work and efforts will take you a long way – this is what makes you a leader and not just a manager.

6. Give credit – Acknowledge the fact that the task was accomplished in a great way. There are a couple of ways to do that – in front of the team (even a simple “Thank you” will help here) and/or in front of upper management (if this is a more specific task, don’t take credit all for yourself). Keep in mind that a tasks that are routine and don’t require much qualifications can be acknowledged with a simple “Thank you”.

7. Take credit – If you know how to delegate tasks and how to make the team more efficient, you deserve credit. Make sure you understand the different between credit for the execution of the task and credit for the management of the project.

8. Learn from your mistakes – Accept the fact that mistakes can happen. When you start working with new colleagues or assistants, start with simpler tasks and move forward as you feel confident with the person. This will ensure your great working relationship and will give you much more comfort with delegating bigger tasks as time goes by.

Don’t forget that there is such stuff as over-optimization and, in this case, over-delegation. Have you heard the story of a software developer that outsourced his work to a Chinese freelancer? He would delegate daily tasks as he received them and spend his day playing video games. He was caught eventually but not after several months of work paradise. The moral? When you decide to delegate tasks, make sure there are enough left for you to do 🙂 Equanimity Executive offers executive business coaching for teams and individuals who seek to achieve the best results they can. Contact us for more information or a quote!

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5 Assumptions that Sabotage Your Career5 assumptions that sabotage your career

Sabotage your career

You give your best to achieve your goal but something is still stopping you on the way up? Or you just move too slow and can’t find the answer?

The best thing you can do is take a step back and analyze what problems you are facing and which doors do you find closed.

What you see is more than obvious – you sabotage your career with assumptions. And I’ll tell you why and how can you change that.

First, let’s agree that we are not discussing wrong work behavior or big mistakes that you make in the office. I believe you don’t participate in such activities. What really stop you on the way up are your assumptions about yourself and the hierarchy.

1. Working solo is better than working with a team – You think that when you work on a project alone and don’t ask for help your management would see that and note how great worker you are? Truth is they might decide you are a bad team player or your co-workers don’t like you. There are some situations when dealing with harder task on your own will make a big impression but don’t ignore the team. If you want to be part of the company and move up the ladder, you need to play good with all the other people. If you focus yourself on being great with co-workers above your level and don’t care to say “Hello” to those who are on your level, you might never see the promotion.

My tip – Working with the team and helping them is most valuable. If they trust you and value your opinion, you can get far. They will support you and help you when you most need help. Invest in the people and you will never regret it.

2. You stay silent about your success – We live in the era of marketing and short attention span. Do you consider it inappropriate to talk about your latest great project and how you turned it around? Do you hide your certifications and achievements in fear that it may sound too pretentious? If your coworkers and managers don’t know how great you are, you need to tell them. This excludes bragging but a little self-promotion can go a long way.

My tip – If you are expanding your competences with additional courses and certifications, share it with your manager. If you don’t feel confident enough to start talking about it – start with adding it to your LinkedIn profile. A change in your profile will be broadcast to your connections and it is possible that they congratulate you in person. It would be easier to do some self promotion if people are asking you to, right?

3. You want to be liked by everyone – This is a big problem for women executives – some try to be friends with every co-worker and do their best to be likeable. But that makes it hard for them to react when someone is not doing his job right. Will you lose their support if you correct their work? Sometimes you will. But remember that your career is not about being the office socialite – it’s about getting the job done. Be careful not to exceed your criticism to people who are not under your direct management.

My tip – When you see that a co-worker is underperforming, talk to him or her in private. Be careful with the words you choose – they need to understand that you are helping them and not trying to make them look bad. You will be surprised by the result. And at the end – some people will never like you no matter what you do – don’t focus on them. Just be your best and do your job – it will make an impression.

4. You focus on your career goal and not on your work – This is something we all tend to do sometimes – you feel that you are really close to the goal and put all your efforts into it. You know the basic requirements for getting promoted and you achieve them one after another. But do you do just the minimum required or go all the way to get the best results you could get? The first won’t get you promoted – the second will.

My tip – Evaluate your own work in the last few months – all the task and the projects you worked on. Did you achieve some great results that show others how valuable you are? Did you just got things done or did you went out of your way to make them winning? Don’t forget your daily responsibilities just because the meeting with HR is a few weeks away. They will look at the overall picture and not just the last few things. Just be great every day of the year.

5. You will get promoted without asking for it – Do you dream of the day when the manager calls you in her office and offers you the position of your life and a great raise? This will not happen unless you stand for your goals and ask for it. They need to show what you’re striving for. I don’t say that you should go to the CEO office and ask for his position. But keep in mind that a silent worker will never become a high-level executive – they need to not only achieve but show success, to be able to communicate it the right way and to let everyone around them that they are not afraid of it.

My tip – Review your achievements after every project and keep a list of all the exceptional things you did. Did you land a new high-paying client? Did you finish the project long before the deadline which lead to more business for the company? Did you reorganized you team and made them more efficient and happy workers? Use those points when you ask for your raise – and you should ask for it at least once a year.

The first thing you need to do when things are not developing the way you want them is to assess the situation. This is also the first step of our ACE-IT coaching program. You need to know exactly where you stand, what are your potential limitations and what are your strong sides. Only then you can move forward – changing what doesn’t work and proceeding with what you do best. Your career might be at a plateau state – don’t sabotage it with your own assumptions.

What assumptions do you make that stop you from succeeding? Share with us in the comments and we can discuss how to move forward. Because you deserve that dream to become your reality.

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Best Practice For a 5 Stars Virtual TeamBest Practice For a 5 Stars Virtual Team

Creating a Five Star Virtual Team

Virtual TeamIt is 7:00 AM in New York City, 1:00 PM in Paris and 5:30 PM in Mumbai- time for our weekly conference call!  This is virtually the only “reasonable” time to schedule a meeting where all team members based in the cities above can communicate simultaneously.

Yes, being a part of a virtual team can be challenging due to schedule conflicts, lag time in communication, and language/cultural barriers, but they are not going away.  In this article, we will explore common conflicts and best practices that will help you create a “Five Star” virtual team.

Virtual teams are groups of individuals who work across time, space and organizational boundaries and who interact primarily through electronic communications to reach a common goal.

As global organizations seek to leverage the expertise that exists across geographic boundaries and time zones, virtual teams will continue to grow.  Nearly a half, or 46 percent, of organizations polled use virtual teams, according to survey results released July 13, 2012, by the Society for Human Resource Management (SHRM).

In virtual teams, the personal, cultural and social aspect is missing.  If you have been on a virtual team, then you may have experienced one or more of the common conflicts listed below.

  1. Common Conflicts in Virtual Teams
  2. Uneven knowledge dissemination.
  3. Reaching consensus is more difficult.
  4. Longer to make decisions.
  5. Mistrust (e-mail lags). Slow response to emails can cause mistrust.

-Misinterpretation (no socio-emotional cues). Non-verbal cues which have been shown to carry considerable weight in correctly interpreting messages and communication are missing.

-Relaxed inhibitions. For various reasons, people often behave with far less restraint in a virtual environment than in the physical world — a phenomenon that psychologists call the “online disinhibition effect.”

Best Practices for a Five Star Virtual Team

Now that we have identified the common conflicts, you can begin to implement the best practices.

  1. Build Trust. Transparency builds trust. When issues are discussed openly and resolved based on their technical merits (and not on biases, bad information, or politics), that transparency will engender a sense of fair play, leading to an atmosphere of trust within the team.
  2. Create a virtual site as the team’s primary focal point. Virtual teams need a shared workspace— specifically an intranet Web site — as the center for their activities. The workspace should contain shared files, project updates, and information on the various team members, as well as online discussion threads organized by topics. Managers can encourage active participation in the virtual workspace by regularly posting important information and documents there, even the group’s critical-path schedule of activities.
  3. Begin with Face-to-Face meeting. It is a good practice for a virtual team to begin with a face-to-face meeting where the team purpose, roles, decision making processes, and norms are discussed.  This face-to-face meeting allows relationships to form. As an alternative, if meeting in person is not possible, then set up a group Skype or a conference call and make time for introductions and learning about the individuals on the team.
  4. Set Ground Rules. Create a kick-off meeting agenda that outlines the ground rules that should be set for virtual teams. Rules and structure need to be carefully constructed up front and enforced. Establish ground rules for communicating such as using email to share reports and chat rooms to discuss other issues related to the project. Encourage frequent communication to make up for the lack of richness.
  5. Performance Expectations. Managers must take extra care of defining performance expectations for team members,  Manager must also remove performance barriers and provide the necessary resources (e.g., up to date equipment)
  6. Respect Time. Be respectful when scheduling meetings across time zones. If you are going to have recurring phone calls, consider alternating times so that the same team members are not always working late at night or early in the morning. (www.timeanddate.com/worldclock)

Whether you are the leader or a member of a virtual team it is equally important to be aware of common conflicts and best practices so that you can achieve your ultimate goal effectively. 

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Why Email Communication Sometimes Sucks

Why Email Communication Sometimes Sucks

We have all had experiences where we receive an email and the message contained can either confuse us or can come across as inappropriate or something it was not intended to be. There can be serious miscommunications when the sender of the email is from a different culture and background than the receiver of the email who will read it in a completely different manner and gets an entirely different message. Why does this happen?

email communicationThere are many different reasons why email communication can sometimes suck and might require clarification.

Miscommunication happens often in a same culture and one of the main issues is that words only convey about 7% of the message when we communicate; tone accounts for 38% and non-verbal cues – body language – accounts for the majority of the message at 55%. Because words represent only 7% of what we perceive, the problem is that there is an issue with the encoding-decoding process. We are missing the other key cues that convey the real intention and meaning of the message.

Now imagine how miscommunication will eventually happen between two people of different cuItures… This can have much to do with the individual’s cultural background or their personality profile – Dominance, Influence, Steadiness, or Compliance.

There are also differences in cultural communication styles. These cultural orientations are known as “High Context” and “Low Context” societies. The main difference is in the way that sentences are structured. High context societies are usually less verbally explicit and rely more on indirect verbal interaction and infer the rest of the message by reading non-verbal cues. They usually have less written communication and are more interested in building relationships and trust. High context cultures include China, Japan, Brazil, Mexico, Russia, and many more. On the other hand, low context societies are task-centered and tend to foster more short-term connections. Communications also tend to be much more direct and informal. Low context cultures include the United States, United Kingdom, Germany, and Canada.

Communication by emailSo, what can we do to ensure that email communication sucks less? Here are some tips for more effective email communication:

The key is to remember that the same email message can be interpreted differently by different people. Do not get offended, do not judge or do not be frustrated. Think about the fact that the other party might as well feel the same way about your “communication skills”.

Pay attention to your interlocutor style – If your interlocutor writes you a bullet point email, try to adapt to the same format, if on the contrary it is full of details, and include as well contextual elements. This will save you time and energy!

Use descriptive headings in the subject line– this allows recipient to know what it’s about and that is important and needs to be read.

Make sure you use the sender’s name or even title and last name when you respond– if you don’t, you could seem disconnected and impersonal for some or totally disrespectful for others.

Only address one or two points per email – this is so that the reader can easily find the email with the information they are looking for by the subject line.

Be concise and to the point – otherwise, the content can be lost in translation; should not be more than 3 paragraphs.

When writing to colleagues in the USA, England or Germany use a bulleted form when possible – becomes more reader friendly and more likely to be understood the way you intended.

Avoid “cc-ing” more than 6 – 8 people at a time – this makes the reader feel less important and unnecessarily flood mailboxes. You should be able to discern who really needs to receive the message.

Specify the response you desire – include call to action and always include your contact information.

Respond in a timely manner – Set reasonable expectations and validate your sender. If you don’t have the time for a lengthy or detailed response, send a “holding” email to let the sender know that you received the message and when you will send a full response.

Ultimately, even though email communication has become so commonplace in today’s world, nothing beats a real fierce conversation, human to human. So if you can, try to have more face-to-face conversations with coworkers and if email is your only choice, be mindful of who the receiver will be, what message you are trying to convey and adapt your style to your receiver as you wish they will do it for you. Be clear to avoid any issues! 

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Broken Goals

Broken Goals?

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Three simple strategies to pick up the pieces

Do you set goals that are never achieved? Have you already given up on your New Year’s Resolutions? If you answered yes, you are not alone. Nearly everyone forgets their resolutions before the end of January, including us.

After searching for answers to figure out what is holding us back, we found three simple strategies for achieving goals that have already produced results for us.

1)   Choose One Goal

We set too many goals each year and end up achieving none. Overwhelming yourself leads to excuses like “I’m too busy today” or “I don’t know where to start.”

So choose ONE goal that will have the most impact on your life and focus on that goal for at least 30 days.

According to the writers of the self-help book “The Secret,” forming a habit will take 30 days.  This explains why having too many goals makes it difficult to succeed.

2)   “Don’t Break the Chain”

Another reason behind broken goals is the inability to take consistent action.

Consider your goal and ask yourself, “What is one habit that will drive me towards the result I want to achieve?” The power is in finding something specific that you can do every day and requires no more than 20 minutes.

If your goal is to write a book, spend 20 minutes writing each day. It is important to create habits that require little time because it is more satisfying to accomplish small actions, rather than feeling like a failure when you take on too much and accomplish nothing. However, if you get on a role and spend two hours writing one day, then be proud of yourself!

Jerry Seinfeld, an American Comedian, shared his personal productivity secret for achieving goals by learning to stay focused. He basically said that the way to create better jokes is to write every day. He also told us about what he does to motivate himself – even when he doesn’t feel like doing it.

This technique is known as “Don’t Break the Chain.” It’s simple. All you need is a red marker and a calendar displayed in a place where it is constantly seen. When you have your action completed for the day, mark the day with a big X. After a few days you will have a chain. Now all you have to do is not break it.

There is an online tool at http://don’tbreakthechain.com. There is also a chains.cc app for the iphone.

3)   Find Your Inner Motivation

Have you ever broken a goal because you forgot why you made the goal in the first place? You lost your motivation.

We usually come up with superficial goals that we tell ourselves and others.

“I want to eat healthier and lose weight”

“I want to start my own business.”

The trick is to dig deeper and find the second layer of reasons, which is often hidden in our subconscious mind. Try asking yourself “Why do I want to achieve this?” Keep asking yourself the same question until you strike an emotional response.

These emotional reasons, once discovered, can be used as fuel to keep you motivated. Once you find your inner motivation, think about what it will look like and how you feel once you have achieved your desired result. Take a minute each day to visualize the end result.  Add one more detail every day and propel yourself to victory.

Now pick your most impactful goal, take consistent action, and start putting the pieces together day by day.

I wish you the best on your journey to achieving your goals. 

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Why Executives Lack of Emotional Intelligence?

Why Executives Lack of Emotional Intelligence?

The higher you are in the org chart, the less emotional intelligence you demonstrate.

Have you ever been in a situation, either in your work or personal life, where you couldn’t understand why you were so upset, frustrated, angry or any other emotion? The ability to identify, assess, and control your own feelings is known as emotional intelligence. It also applies to how you perceive, evaluate, and respond to the emotions of others. Being able to express and influence your own emotions can be a challenge sometimes, but being able to understand, interpret, and respond to the emotions of others can be an entirely different animal.

We spend 90% of our time communicating

The workplace is full of human interactions, which can lead to some complex situations where people may interpret or react emotionally in different ways. It is very important that leaders be able to be sensitive to and manage others feelings and emotional reactions. As a leader you need to be able to be perceptive of your team’s emotions so that you can use this information to guide your thinking and actions but as well to lead better.

According to Peter Salovey and John D. Mayer, leading researchers in this area, there are four different factors to emotional intelligence:

EQ for leaders and executives | emotional IntelligencePerceiving Emotions: When it comes to understanding emotions, accuracy in perception is essential. This may include having to read nonverbal signs, such as facial expressions and body language.
Reasoning with Emotions: Emotions generally influence what we pay attention to and prioritize. You need to use emotions to promote thinking and cognitive activity.
Understanding Emotions: The emotions that we perceive can have an abundance of different meanings. If someone is angry, one must interpret the cause of the anger and what it could mean. For example, we all have seen that angry customer in line yelling at the cashier. Their anger could be caused by something that directly happened with the cashier, or it could be that they had a bad day at work, are fighting with their spouse, etc.
Managing Emotions: The ability to manage emotions effectively is a key to emotional intelligence. Regulating emotions, responding appropriately to your own emotions and the emotions of others are central components to emotional management.

Leaders who achieve effortlessly and inspire demonstrate Emotional Intelligence

Your level of emotional intelligence has a direct impact on your life, productivity, and achievement. You can work on this by always remembering that your thoughts determine your emotions. Sometimes challenging one of this thought will open the door to a more positive emotion.

By doing this, it will facilitate your ability to communicate clearly and with care. This is essential to implement in your workforce; it will promote effective and clear communication while still being sensitive and aware of how others – and customers – respond. This will directly affect how well your business runs, create a positive culture, and will be a competitive edge.

As a leader in the workplace, it is important to recognize that your employees are looking to work somewhere where they are understood by leadership as well as their colleagues. They are also very mindful of the culture; they want to be able to work in a place that allows them to be themselves and allows them to express their passion, fulfills their desires, and allows them to truly tap into their talent and reach their full potential. Sometimes, a leader can become so preoccupied and focused on their own goals that being sensitive to their employees’ needs and how to serve them may fall by the wayside. These employees are what allow the leader to continue in their role and essentially produce the statistics the leader needs to be measured as effective. Leaders are deemed successful in their roles when they can promote effective teamwork that gets the best performance from each of the members and increase productivity. This means that leaders need to be strong and supportive at the simultaneously.

Emotional intelligence allows leaders to be influence and lead other more effectively.

Emotional Intelligence - Executive CoachingAs an individual when you are able to identify what matters to you, what drives others, you become a more powerful person and you lead yourself and other where you want. Far too often leaders do not realize that others may not have the same drivers to succeed or an equal willingness to “sacrifice” in order to advance as they themselves have. Everyone is unique and different, and it is important for not only leaders but for all of us to embrace those differences and utilize them to leverage strengths, which in the end can create opportunities for the business itself. Essentially, it is important to practice emotional intelligence in order to create desired results for the business.

Here are five helpful tips that you can work on to improve productivity in the workplace:

Genuinely care about people and express it. All employees, and anyone for that matter, want to know that their effort and hard work is appreciated. Always say thank you and take time to be a mentor. These are simple, yet powerful, gestures.
Embrace differences. Be inclusive of differences and use this knowledge to leverage strengths and abilities that are useful for the project or situation. Everyone has a unique perspective and when they are brought together, you are left with innovations and opportunities. People also appreciate those who accept and embrace what sets them apart from others.
Allow people to experience success and significance.

Everyone wants to feel like they make an impact where they work, so as a leader it is important that you lead your team or employees in ways that allows them to experience feeling successful and significant.

Be accountable.

To earn the respect, it is crucial that you treat yourself as an equal in regards to accountability. Be approachable, admit when you have committed an error, and be transparent. Doing so will build trust and support.

Be mindful of others’ needs.

Everyone has the capacity to improve their performance and productivity. This requires you to be mindful of what others need, including feedback and recommendations.

Just by changing a few things that you do as a leader and by becoming more aware of how you feel and react, as well as how others around you feel and react, you can change your team and workplace for the better; employees want to work hard for someone that they trust. Being mindful and exercising emotional intelligence will allow you to become a better leader. And never forget that the larger the gap, the easier it is to forget what it was like to work in the trenches.

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The Underutilized Talents of Women LeadersLe Talent des Femmes Cadres Souvent Inutilisé

The Underutilized Talents of Women Leaders

There is a Difference of vision between men and women

Many companies are currently struggling with realizing and adapting to the differences in male and female mentalities in the workplace. As described in a Forbes online article, Retention of Female Executives – How to Get it Right by Dr. Cindy Wahler, “Men begin the process with the bottom line and engage in tactics.  These tactics dictate the approach on how they need to grow their business, build client relationships, and be more competitive.

Women on the other hand work first to build inclusion, relationships both internal and external are cultivated as the platform from which negotiations are then launched.  The process of discussing the merits of an approach, sorting out who does what and when, as well as determining the best combination of skills is an approach that is articulated out loud.  A collaborative process then drives consensus, agreed upon roles, and ongoing dialogue.”

This difference has caused many women executives to feel a sense of isolation and that the company’s decision makers are not paying attention. This causes many skilled women executives to leave their jobs at the peak of their careers either to go to the non-profit sector or to look for the organization that will align with their values and give them a sense of purpose !

The Workplace even when it promotes diversity is still hostile

Women in the workplace are highly susceptible to feelings of dissatisfaction and unhappiness due to the structure of how things are done within the company. Men and women have different tactics and strategies, and this difference can create a sense of isolation and discord.

Many subconscious feelings of dissatisfaction and unhappiness can be manifested through experiencing numerous emotions, and this is especially true for women leaders and women executives. Some of the symptoms include:

Constantly feeling out of place 
A sense of frustration because you can’t seem to ever get ahead even though you believe and know that you have good ideas
Aggravation that your job seems to be more about continuously putting out fires and fixing problems, which requires a lot of “have to” and “need to” energy
You know ways to accomplish more with less stress in less time with less effort but no one is willing to listen
Stressing out over workplace conflict created by the conflicting and competing visions between men and women
Tired of the all too common “negative” corporate culture where the focus is strictly on profit and competition
Not fitting into the “men” mold that is integrated into the corporate culture
Finding yourself limited in your actions
Realizing that your core values are not honored
Any regrets

This difference, if overlooked, costs millions of dollars to organizations

All too often, organizations assess the lack of stability of women executives to a “woman trait”. They rarely question the fact that the culture and values of the organization might be outdated and not represent their workforce or even their clients anymore. Organizations, made by people,  are afraid of change and believe that something terrible will happen if they take a leap of faith to do something different. Many of us do not realize that the status quo hold many women back which limit the creativity  and ability of an organization to innovate. Moreover, we “push” women to stay at a job that makes them unhappy .

Corporate America has changed, the culture of organizations can change as well

It is very important to be able to identify things that are causing dissatisfaction in your life or in your organization. These can be detrimental to your well-being, your female workforce level of engagement and your bottom line.

Remember the last time you took a leap of faith, like many of us you regretted you didn’t make the decision sooner. Don’t let this be you or your organization! Utilize Human Capital consciously and respectfully by exploring women’s vision and creating a new culture with shared values!

 

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Transition Career? Need for a Change?

Obvious Signs You Need to Make a Change

When is it Time to Make a Change in Your Life or a Transition Career?

There are several “red flags” or signs that you are not happy with your life or career. Some of these include under-performance in certain aspects or requirements for your job, reluctance to participate, stresses on relationships, or feeling stuck. The following list highlights various aspects of your work and home life that you may or may not be feeling good about.

Communication Skills
You feel that you cannot communicate effectively with anyone in your life or you find that you come across as negative through your tone and body language when you communicate with others

Energy
You feel drained of positive energy every day that lasts throughout the day, at work and at home or you feel simply negative.

Engagement at Work
When you are not satisfied with your job, your engagement with your job tasks and duties can suffer greatly.

Family Relationships
You are not happy with your relationships with your family, or you feel that they are suffering or that they cause you stress

Financial Success
You are not pleased with your financial success, or you feel that you are not paid what you are worth

Health and Wellness
Do you feel good in your skin or do you think that there are areas that you should improve in your health or wellness? Do you suffer from physical symptoms of stress or stress-related illnesses?

Intimate Relationships
Do you feel fulfilled and satisfied with your intimate relationships? Or do you feel that they have become cold, distant, or nonexistent?

Leadership Ability
You feel that your team and your coworkers do not help you in your role and do not hear you or you feel that you have lost control or never had it to begin with? Does it make you frustrated?

Personal Freedom
People are getting in your way, you are unable to work at your pace or to do things your way, or make decisions for yourself. You struggle to have time for yourself.

Productivity
Projects you are working on seem to never end. You can’t concentrate or finish a single thing due to the amount of tasks on your to do list.

Spiritual Connection
Do you feel fulfilled and connected with your inner self or beliefs? Or do you feel that you are missing something?

Time Management
Are you happy with the boundaries and system that you have in place to tackle tasks? Or do you feel that you have too much on your plate and never have time for anything?

Work/Life Balance
You feel dissatisfied with the amount of time that you give to your job and your family and personal life. Your workload is dominating or consuming your personal life.

Working Relationships
You feel your relationships at work are tense where you expected synergy.

Happiness and Fulfillment
Overall, you feel generally in an unhappy state of mind and feel that you go from one thing to another without true purpose or you do not receive satisfaction from the things that you do. It seems that a black cloud is following you at times.

If you feel that you are not happy with your performance in three or more of the aforementioned facets of your life, it may be time to reconsider your passions and priorities to make a needed change. Once you identify which aspects you are dissatisfied with, you can weigh your options and create a plan of action.

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