Belinda MJ. Brown, Author at Equanimity Executive

Attract More Positive Energy in Your Life & in Your Organization

Apr 13 2012Oct 1 2020 Belinda MJ. Brown Leadership, Walk the Talk...

I had a personal experience recently with energy that made me look for tips to assist me and others to attract more positive energy. As a coach you better Walk the Talk to assist your clients to get the most of the coaching experience. Sen, a blogger, wrote an article which provides simple tips. I wanted to share this list with you.

Start Your Day With Meditation
Treat Everyone the Way You Want to be Treated
Let Go of Your Need to Control
See the Positive in Every Situation
Visualize a Peaceful Life
Stop Worrying About the Future
Drop the Resentment Within
Stay as the Presence Instead of the Ego
Look at the Nature
Feel the Spaciousness in Your Body

Which one did you apply today? Which ones will you apply tomorrow?
Which tip could you had to this list?

I would add that the first thing to develop is Awareness. Making yourself aware of the energy you live in and deliver to others gives you the opportunity to choose how you respond to any situation. The Energy Leadership Index provides a great snapshot of where you currently stand energetically. Feel free to contact me to take the assessment!

3 Essential Qualities To Make Sustainable Changes

Apr 5 2012Oct 1 2020 Belinda MJ. Brown Leadership, Team Success, Women Success

“Be the change you want to see in the world.”-Mahatma Gandhi

From presidential candidates to the average main street citizen, change is in the air. At some point, everyone wants to make a change. The people that surround us in our community like friends, relatives, coworkers and politicians are all talking about the miraculous effect of making a sustainable change. As nations and organizations strive towards changing their image and manner of operating, they need to keep the concepts of courage, commitment and self-mastery at the forefront of their minds. Without these skills, people can never take the first step towards a sustainable difference in how they live their lives. To reach common goals, the first step is the most difficult one and distractions are in abundance, but these values can help individuals and corporations to stay the course and affect a dramatic difference in their lives. Understanding how courage, commitment and self-mastery transform the individual and bring about a change enables us to lead ourselves, our organization and even our nations to success.

Courage

Winston Churchill once said, “Courage is what it takes to stand up and speak; courage is also what it takes to sit down and listen”. It takes a great deal of personal courage to be able to transform oneself and start on the task of transforming an organization or a community. Young Kevin Kay, a Maryland high school student who won the 2011 National John F. Kennedy Profile in Courage Essay Contest, knew the value of courage well. He wrote his essay on the story of John B. Orr, Junior. John B. Orr was a representative from Florida in the 1950s that stood up for what he believed in.

During this time period, the Supreme Court ruled on the case of Brown v. the Board of Education. Schools in Florida were set to be desegregated and legislators were rushing to figure out ways around the desegregation process. When it came time to vote on the proposition, every legislator in the room voted for the proposition while only John B. Orr, Jr. voted against it. In his twenty minute speech explaining his vote, he railed against supporting an immoral act just because that is the way things had always been. Two elections later, he lost his seat to a Southern supremacist, but his impact remained. Due to his influence, the eventual desegregation of Florida schools was
able to take place.

The courage he faced in his upwards battle against segregation is an inspiration for others to take. After he voted against segregation, people called his house with death threats and burned crosses in his yard. Yet, John B. Orr J. persevered. This kind of courage is an example for ordinary people of what can be accomplished if you have the bravery to stand up for what you believe in despite the challenges. Having courage to achieve your dreams and effect change creates a momentum that leads to success. This success comes from achieving the goal set for yourself or your organization. Success has many definitions for different individuals, organizations and communities.What is yours?

Commitment

Creating a goal and having the courage to follow through is the first part of changing your life. To create a sustainable change, an individual or organization must demonstrate a commitment to their purpose. IKEA is one of the many examples of a company who stove to commit themselves to their core values. They chose to demonstrate responsibility to the environment and to their community rather than just sell home furnishings. Along the way, IKEA managed to reduce their carbon footprint and help create more sustainable forestry practices. According to the Sacramento Bee, “IKEA Canada is committed to contributing to the company’s Global direction to reduce the amount of emissions associated with its business operations. To symbolize their action against climate change, IKEA Canada is participating in the Earth Hour campaign for the fourth consecutive year. The annual campaign is a global call to action to turn out lights for one hour at 8:30 p.m. on Saturday, March 31, 2012.”(Source The Sacramento Bee). The commitment they show to sustainable business practices has led to the success of their company and a strong business model that other companies seek to emulate.

Self Mastery

As King Louis XIV once said, “There is little that can withstand a man who can conquer himself.” Someone who has the ability to master their own mind and purpose can put those skills to use in the world around them. This kind of person resonates with success. Their mindset attracts the right people, places and opportunities without trying. By being able to conquer their own soul, they are able to take advantage of every opportunity that comes their way without fear or hesitation. Many people practice and study various arts and become almost a master at their studies, yet the only thing you can truly conquer is yourself. Each person has the opportunity in their life to become more attune with who they are and confident in their own personality. This skill is at once one of the easiest and most difficult. Self-mastery enables you to make the most out of your mental, physical and spiritual health. Before you can help others, you must first help yourself. Each person has their own personality and unique design. At its core, this being is perfect. By learning how to tap into this core personality, we can unleash our gifts upon the world. When you can share your gift with the world, you can be considered a self-master. It does not matter what you do or how much; it matters who you are and how you express yourself. Stop trying to be who you are not and become who you are. Self-Mastery means living an abundant, fulfilled and enjoyable life. A self-master is in control without ever having to control anyone else. You become the cause instead of the effect of your life and resonate at a high frequency of energy that attracts everything you could want in your life. With little or no effort, the path of change and self-mastery can be found by even the most unlikely of persons. Live life the way it was meant to and become the master of your fate.

4 Easy Tips to Bring Happiness in Our Life

Feb 22 2012Oct 1 2020 Belinda MJ. Brown Walk the Talk...

So many times we find ourselves constantly focused on that next big challenge in life whether it be a promotion, a companion, a bigger house, a newer car or any number of our individual desires that we wind up missing out on finding true happiness by practicing equanimity in life. We consistently put off those things that would bring true happiness in our efforts to obtain that distant goal. We tell ourselves, “When I achieve X, then I will finally be happy.” while disregarding those things around us that could actually make us happy today.

Live Now

A great resource to determine what it is that drives our ego, and in many cases creates a great deal of our stress, is the work of Eckhart Tolle. Digging into the concept of “Now,” Tolle shines some solid light on how our ego tends to get in the way of finding our equanimity. We want to understand what our individual happiness looks and feels like. Many times we get down on ourselves for mistakes we may have made in the past or achievements in the future we have not yet accomplished. Although it is good to have an accurate self image of where we have been and where we’re going, we could decide not to let that add additional stress to our pursuit of being happy. Being truly happy results when we recognize who we are, what we have accomplished, how abundant we already are and are satisfied with what we have experienced. If we are in a constant search for being happy more often, we will not allow ourselves to acknowledge and celebrate what we have and be truly happy about our accomplishments. A fact of life is that we are promised tomorrow, so worrying about what may come up in the future will also create the potential for a more stressful life full of fear and frustration. The past offers experiences and learning only. Worrying about what has been done in the past will not change it. We are perfect and unique human beings; mistakes are opportunities to grow. That being said, we could choose to reflect on those experiences to expand the amount of equanimity we feel in life.

Cultivate Equanimity

One of the biggest drivers of having less stress and more equanimity in life is the attitude we bring to any situation. Understanding that we have the choice to react or to respond will change not only the outcome but our level of energy. Those who tend to have a more positive attitude by choice are usually perceived as being much happier. Being able to genuinely appreciate the moments of your life will lessen your stress and increase your ability to be happy.

Develop Awareness

Working on our awareness of our attitude in life and our understanding of what makes us happy will give us the ability to identify our inner ambitions and desires and be able to let go of the need to control them. Instead we may find ourselves embracing new opportunities. Ultimately, if we love the skin we are in, it will allow us to love others as well and find some much wanted equanimity. This will also help us keep our ego in check as we see people on the same level as we see ourselves and also be at peace with that. One of the best questions we can ask ourselves is from A Course of Miracles; “Do we want to be right, or do we want to be happy?” Basically, are our relationships with others more important than the issues being discussed? In the end, it is those we know who will shape us far more than what is it we know.

Transcend our Ego and Lead Ourselves

It is our own individual ego that tends to drive stresses and worries in our lives. Increased worries and stresses will always lead to decreased happiness in life. A great example of this is, say we are driving to work, rocking out to one of our favorite tunes when the motorist in front of us slams on his or her brakes, causing us to follow suit. We spill your coffee, which not only is hot, but will leave a nice stain on our shirt for the rest of the day, and it just so happens we have an 8 a.m. meeting with the boss as soon as we get in. This definitely takes a relaxed drive into work and turns it into a stressful situation as well as sets a foul mood for the rest of our day. At this point, we have the choice to respond by making lemonade out of lemons, or we can stew on it for the remainder of the day, causing much unneeded negativity for us and everyone around us. In these situations, take a quick account of our wins. Although we have a stained shirt and a bit of pain from the hot coffee, other than that we are safe, we were not involved in an accident and we are still on our way to a job that provides us the life we are currently accustomed to living. If we take these words to heart, we will transcend our ego and we will find ourselves a genuinely happy person overall.

One of the more famous proverbs to make its way out of China reads, “When you cease in seeking happiness, you will find it.”

Coaching to Focus and Keep Yourself AccountableLe Coaching: se Recentrer et se Responsabiliser pour Atteindre ses Objectifs

Jan 16 2012Oct 1 2020 Belinda MJ. Brown Testimonials

J’ai eu le plaisir d’accompagner une très chère amie dans un projet qui lui tenait à coeur. Voici son témoignage:

1.De quelle manière le processus d’accompagnement ou Coaching vous a permis d’évoluer?
Je me trouvais dans une situation professionnelle très peu stimulante depuis un moment et mon esprit combatif et ambitieux s’était endormi. Du coup j’étais découragée et démotivée tout en me sentant un peu perdue.
Mes cinq sessions de coaching m’ont vite permis de faire le tour de ma situation et de me recentrer sur mes envies. J’ai fait la liste des projets qui me tenaient à cœur et retrouvé la motivation et l’inspiration pour bouger les choses rapidement.

2. Avez obtenu ce que vous souhaitiez de votre expérience avec votre coach?
Tout à fait! Je souhaitais retrouver ma motivation et insuffler du dynamisme dans ma carrière afin d’évoluer et atteindre mes objectifs personnels.

3.Quelle(s) nouvelle(s) force ou qualité aavez vous développé après cette expérience?
J’ai élevé mon niveau d’exigences car j’ai compris que je valais bien plus sur le marché. Cela m’a permis de retrouver ma confiance en moi.

4. Comment aurais pu être une meilleure coach pour vous?
C’est ma première expérience de coaching, aussi il m’est difficile de savoir les limites maximum de ce type d’accompagnement.

5. Qu’est ce qui vous a le plus supris à propos de vous même?
La rapidité du changement opéré chez moi m’a surprise. J’ai eu l’impression d’avoir sauté sur un tremplin.

6. Quel a été le plus grand bénéfice de cet accompagnement?
Le souffle de positivisme et d’énergie qui m’a été donné a été comme un déclic pour moi.

7. Quels sont à vos yeux les principaux éclaircissements obtenus grâce au Coaching?
J’ai fait la liste des projets qui me tenaient à cœur et retrouvé la motivation et l’inspiration pour bouger les choses rapidement.

8. Que ferez vous différemment aujourd’hui?
La planification de mes projets sera organisée par écrit sans me mettre de restriction puisque je peux tout faire!

9. Comment décririez vous votre expérience globale?
Le souffle de positivisme et d’énergie qui m’a été donné a été comme un déclic pour moi. J’ai élevé mon niveau d’exigences car j’ai retrouvé ma confiance en moi. – Audrey.H, French, Spend Management Corporate services – Buyer agent, CGI, Montreal, CA –

How Coaching Helps Release from the Chains of Technology Se liberer des chaines de la technologie grace au coaching

Jan 4 2012Oct 1 2020 Belinda MJ. Brown Business Success, Career Success, Leadership, Team Success

Matthieu Scherrer, chief editor of the French magazine Management sets the tone in its edito “to isolate itself in its bubble to stop lounging “. Frank Esser, the boss of SFR, uncontested leader advocates the isolation chosen from any technology to simply reconnect with his co-workers or get down to a complex task. The magazine prepared a special file which addresses executives, leaders, but also each employee. I take the opportunity to share with you a brief summary of the issue of January.

Christophe André, psychiatrist, notices that we use more and more information channels which produce constant interruptions. “The periods of peace, slowness and continuity split” too, which becomes a problem in the organizations and in our daily life, because it is during these periods of peace, slowness and of continuity we develop our reasoning, our ideas but also our creativity from where results the innovation. In every interruption (email, SMS, twit, phone call, vibrator) we need 64 seconds to re-connect with our task or our idea!! Incredible! While we take into account the fact that 65 % of the French employees verify their emails every 5 minutes and that our time of conscious attention is only 20 minutes per hour.

By being more concentrated how many of us would be more effective? Imagine having the opportunity to focus on a conversation with somebody more than 2 minutes without being interrupted by your telephone, blackberry or an email, what quality of life would you have? What would be the productivity of your employees? How many decisions would be already taken and in phase of implementation?

How to release us from those chains of the technology? The liberation comes from the awareness. In the current situation we are literally bombarded by the information, we are ceaselessly stimulated, we live in the urgency leaving no more place to the calm, to the silence and thus little place space on second thought which would allow us to manage more effectively our life, to respond instead of reacting in order to prioritize and to create choices.

The Coaching or personalized accompaniment of the individual develops because people needs to step back, to re-connect with their Core, with reflection and creativity which are part of each of us.

First, a tool used to accompany poor performance, Coaching became a tool of the elite reserved for our executives and leaders, nowadays coaching specialized and available at each level.

The coach besides accompanying the professional and personal development of the individual is also the means to know individual paces among which the rhythm of sleep, the hours of better productivity (Laure Cailloce’s article p36 of the magazine), and also to identify feelings and reactions, as well as to learn to live in aligned with our Core Self and with others in any situations.Matthieu Scherrer, rédacteur en chef du magazine Management donne le ton dans son edito “S’isoler dans sa bulle pour arrêter de buller”. Frank Esser, le patron de SFR, leader incontesté prône l’isolement choisi de toute technologie afin de connecter avec ses collaborateurs ou de s’atteler à une tâche complexe. Le magazine a préparé un dossier spécial qui s’adresse aux cadres, aux dirigeants, mais aussi à tout salarié. Je profite de l’occasion pour partager avec vous un résumé succinct du numéro de ce mois de Janvier.

Christophe André , psychiatre, constate que nous utilisons de plus en plus de canaux qui produisent des interruptions constantes. “Les périodes de calme, de lenteur et de continuité se fractionnent” elles aussi, ce qui est devient un problème dans le fonctionnement des entreprises et dans la vie de tout un chacun, car ce sont durant ces périodes de calme, de lenteurs et de continuité que nous développons notre raisonnement, nos idées mais aussi notre créativité d’où provient l’innovation. A chaque interruption (email, sms, twit, coup de tél, vibreur…) il nous faut 64 secondes pour reconnecter avec notre tâche ou notre idée!! Incroyable quand on tient compte du fait que 65% des salariés français vérifient leurs emails toutes les 5 minutes et que notre temps d’attention consciente par heure n’est que de 20 minutes.

En étant plus concentrés combien d’entre nous seraient plus efficaces? Imaginez avoir la possibilité de vous focaliser sur une conversation avec quelqu’un plus de 2 minutes sans être interrompu par votre téléphone, blackberry ou un email, quelle qualité de vie auriez-vous? Quelles seraient la productivité de vos employés? Combien de décisions seraient déjà prise et en phase d’implémentation?

Comment faire pour nous libérer des chaînes de la technologie me demanderont certains ? La libération vient de la prise de conscience. Dans les conditions actuelles où nous sommes littéralement bombardés par l’information, nous sommes sans cesse stimulé, nous vivons dans l’urgence ne laissant plus de place au calme, au silence et donc très peu de place à la réflexion qui nous permettrait de gérer plus efficacement notre vie, de répondre au lieu de réagir et de se donner des priorités.

Le Coaching ou accompagnement personnalisé de l’individu se développe car il y a un besoin d’une prise de recul, de temps pour reconnecter avec Soi, avec sa réflexion et la créativité qui est part de chacun d’entre nous.

Tout d’abord outil de recadrage d’un collaborateur peu performant ou n’atteignant pas ses objectifs, le coaching est devenu un outil de l’élite réservé à nos cadres et dirigeants, puis le coaching s’est spécialisé et se démocratise peu à peu.

Le consultant/coach en plus d’accompagner le développement professionnel et personnel d’un collaborateur est aussi le moyen de connaître son rythme individuel parmi lesquels le rythme de sommeil, les heures de meilleures productivité (article de Laure Cailloce p36 du magazine), d’identifier ses émotions et ses réactions, ainsi que d’apprendre à vivre en harmonie avec soi-même et avec les autres en toutes situations.

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Coaching to Improve Communication SkillsCoaching pour Améliorer la Communication

Dec 18 2011Oct 1 2020 Belinda MJ. Brown Testimonials

I had recently received a feedback questionnaire from one of our clients, let me share his experience with you.

As you went through the coaching journey, how did it change things for you?

While I went through the coaching journey, I took conscience of a way to communicate/ to interact with my upper level which did not serve me well. I realized that I probably did not use the good means to report my actions and my initiatives, when I communicated with them. In addition, when I did, it was not very often, I gained clarity on the situation when I started the coaching. I’m now able to communicate on my actions with my upper level, to document my initiatives and the outcomes in order to “sell” myself in a respectful manner for my other colleagues.
The main point was to understand that my level of engagement and what I was doing every day in my work were different from my colleagues because I want to grow professionally.

Did you get what you hoped to get from coaching? Were your expectations met?

It was my first time experiencing coaching; a kind of experiment. I didn’t really have expectations or aims to achieve. However, I’ve faced an understanding person who has pulled the right strings in my mind to help me.

What new strengths can you see you have developed from the experience?

I have developed greater communication skills.

How did you surprise yourself through the coaching series?

My capacity to improve and the ideas I exchanged during the sessions. I kept them unconsciously in my mind, and I finally got the answers a few days ago

Is there a way I could have been a better coach for you?

Maybe if I’ve asked better questions? But, definitely no, you’ve been a great coach.

What will you now do differently?

From now I communicate better and document my work to convey my point of view and my results in order to drive my career in the direction I want. – O.M, Planner Buyer, Bombardier Aerospace, Montreal, CA – I had recently received a feedback questionnaire from one of our clients, let me share his experience with you.

As you went through the coaching journey, how did it change things for you?

Did you get what you hoped to get from coaching? Were your expectations met?

What new strengths can you see you have developed from the experience?

I have developed greater communication skills.

How did you surprise yourself through the coaching series?

My capacity to improve and the ideas I exchanged during the sessions. I kept them unconsciously in my mind, and I finally got the answers a few days ago

Is there a way I could have been a better coach for you?

Maybe if I’ve asked better questions? But, definitely no, you’ve been a great coach.

What will you now do differently?

Global Leadership: Have a True ConversationAyez une Vraie Conversation

Dec 4 2011Oct 1 2020 Belinda MJ. Brown Walk the Talk..., Women Success

Intense, robust and powerful conversations are hard to engage in because of our fears, assumptions, interpretations and limiting belief systems. Sometimes it is simply a case bad timing or not enough time. There are many reasons why a situation should not be addressed. It’s also easy to forget to discuss a situation for months or even years later. By this time, the situation is far worse and the relationship may have completely deteriorated.

Think about the last time you had THE conversation that helped you develop into a more constructive person at work and home.

Being new to an environment makes it difficult for some people to feel comfortable in expressing their viewpoints or concerns. This is an issue faced by global leadership, many expatriates and repatriates. The language barrier and unfamiliarity often deters expatriates and repatriates from speaking out. This leads us to become resentful and frustrated. These feelings can lead to blaming others for not caring, disregarding opinions and not understand the reality that we face.

We forget that we never wanted to have the conversation to express our thoughts and feelings. So we never did and habitually remained silent.

Member of the global leadership, if you are experiencing the stress of a perceived lack of consideration and feeling unheard, perhaps you should ask yourself a few questions. It is important to question when and who these feelings began. You should also think about why these feelings exist. If you reflect on it, quickly overcome the challenge and find ways to release the negative energy which holds you back; you will eventually enjoy every fierce conversation you want to have. Going through this process, you will create a new paradigm.

It may be a good idea to request the assistance of an executive coach and expat coach.

An executive coach and expat coach will assist you in expressing your feelings and releasing any suppressed frustrations due to expatriation. They will help you develop inter-cultural communication skills and overcome the culture shock. These coaches are here to help you become more familiar with your new surroundings and diminish the stress associated with making this transition.

Global Leadership who experiences expatriation or any other major life transition seek assistance. Global leadership and expat coaches are not just available for dealing with people who are in distress. They assist people in making the most of and enjoying their experiences in a new cultural environment.Les conversations intenses, robustes et puissantes sont difficiles à engager du fait de nos craintes, de nos suppositions, de nos interprétations et de système de pensée. Parfois c’est le manque de temps qui nous incite à repousser cette importante conversation. Nous nous créons beaucoup de raisons pour ne pas faire face à une situation. Nous nous apercevons qu’il est facile d’oublier de discuter d’un événement ou d’une situation pendant des mois voire des années. Quand elle s’impose à nous, cette conversation est beaucoup plus agitée et chargée de sentiments, de ressentiments et au fil du temps la situation a pu se détériorer sans que nous en apercevions.
Vous souvenez vous de la dernière fois où vous avez eu un véritable échange avec quelqu’un, une discussion qui a été constructive et qui vous a permis à vous et votre interlocuteur de sortir grandi, heureux et plus serein ?
Nouveaux dans un environnement, certains individus ne se sentent pas à l’aise dans l’expression de leurs points de vue ou de leurs préoccupations. Beaucoup d’expatriés et de rapatriés sont confrontés à ce type de situation. La barrière linguistique et le caractère non familier dissuadent souvent les expatriés et rapatriés de s’investir dans des discussions à leur arrivée, ils jouent les observateurs. Ceci les mène à se mettre en retrait temporairement, pensent-ils, puis cela devient une habitude pour leur interlocuteurs et pour eux. Des sentiments de frustration et d’inconfort peuvent émergés du fait d’une impression de manque de considération, et d’incompréhension de la réalité que nous vivons.
Nous oublions souvent que nous n’avons jamais voulu avoir la première conversation pour exprimer nos pensées et nos sentiments. Notre silence est désormais perçu comme de la réserve ou de l’acquiescement.

Si vous éprouvez du stress par manque de considération et que vous ne vous sentez pas entendus, peut-être devriez-vous vous poser les questions suivantes. Quand est-ce que ce sentiment de frustration a commencé ? Vous devriez aussi vous demander pour quelles raisons ces sentiments existent chez vous ? Si vous y réfléchissez, vous surmonterez rapidement le défi et trouverez les moyens de sortir de l’énergie négative qui vous envahi en engageant cette discussion; vous apprécierez finalement chaque conversation intense que vous voulez avoir. En passant par ce processus, vous créerez un nouveau paradigme.
Cela peut être une bonne idée de demander l’aide d’un Consultant ou d’un Coach pour Cadres et Dirigeants et d’un Expat Coach.

Un Executive Coach pour Cadres et Dirigeants ou un Expat Coach vous aideront dans l’identification de vos sentiments et comportements qui génèrent frustration et stress dans votre vie. Puis il vous accompagnera dans la libération de votre stress, la recherche d’un équilibre dans vos relations professionnelles et personnelles ainsi que dans l’accomplissement d’objectifs audacieux. . Il vous aidera à développer des compétences de communication interculturelles et de surmonter le choc culturel. Un Coach doit vous aider à devenir plus familiers avec votre nouvel environnement et diminuer le stress associé à cette transition.
Un nombre grandissant d’individus et d’organisations qui vivent l’expatriation ou toute autre transition majeure dans leur vie recrute des professionnels pour les accompagner. L’Executive et Expat Coach n’est pas uniquement sollicité pour traiter avec les gens qui sont en détresse. Il assiste ses clients à profiter et optimiser leur expérience dans un nouveau pays.

Coaching Benefits after a Complimentary SessionPremières Impressions: Première Consultation

Nov 23 2011Oct 1 2020 Belinda MJ. Brown Testimonials

(…)You were really thoughtful connecting with me and following up, that’s why I wanted you to understand the situation that I come from. I am pleased to let you know that:

• I felt that you could really relate to me and my needs, not only because of your foreign background but because you are a caring person.

• I felt motivated as you could spot the achievement s in my life and validate them. That was very reassuring.

• I felt that you were empathetic with everything that I am going through while still challenging me to use my capabilities to improve my environment and my situation.

• I realized that energy is a common word in our vocabulary and I really value and believe in the power of energy management. That made me feel comfortable with what can come from you.

Belinda, (…) I am happy to tell you that you were extremely insightful and I am glad I was able to find you on my path. I feel more confident and have more clarity than I had a short while ago and I can assure you that you were responsible for some of my inspirations.
– Paulo De T., Master in Hospitality Management & Full Time Parent, Brazilian, Helsinski, Finland –

The Stress of the Holiday SeasonLe Stress des Fetes de Fin D annee…

Nov 22 2011Oct 1 2020 Belinda MJ. Brown Leadership, Team Success

Facts about the Holiday Season…

The Holidays will start with Thanksgiving, as usual on a Thursday. For many of us starts the stress of the Holiday Season.
Some of us will drive long hours on hostile highways, others will accommodate members of their family for several days sometimes stretching their budget, while others will stay at home alone; they rather not to visit their relatives because of a dispute, a lack of money or else. All of these will mostly result in stress.

How many of us do remember this particular event because of a difficult conversation with an in Law or a miscommunication about who will prepare the dinner?

How stressful is it already for you and your family? Very much, uh!!!

What makes you think that it has to be a stressful event this year again?

• Past experience: “My Mom do not like to cook, I will have to”,
• Fear: “I am not comfortable flying to my parents this year”,
• Limiting belief: “My new in Laws are very different from me because they are X, Y, Z”
• Interpretation: “Last year, Ron told me that he did not like my pie, he doesn’t like me”

What would it take to make this event as meaningful and joyful as we expect it?

Our intention!

It seems to be an easy thing to say, is not it? It is as well an easy thing to do if you think about it. We all have the power to make this day a peaceful and meaningful event. We may decide this year to look at this date as a wonderful opportunity to celebrate our success with our family, relatives and friends, to be grateful for what we have and for each experience and every person who crossed our path.
Let us visualize ourselves already at this particular moment or situation that we apprehend, and then let us imagine that you may simply rewrite the scene like we were the producer of a show.

How would we like to rewrite this scene? What does it look like (using all our senses: smell, touch, hearing, taste, sight)? What would we say? What would your family or relatives would say? What would we do? How good would we feel at this particular moment? Let’s hold on this feeling for a moment.

Now, we may determine our intention!

I would suggest us to write down what we did experience through this 3 to 5 minutes scenario and to keep our findings with us through the Holiday week end with the intention to make it happens!

Please share your Past Stressful experience and/ or your Stress Free Thanksgiving experience with us on our blog, you may remain anonymous 😉

We wish you a Safe and Stress Free Thanksgiving.

Les Fêtes de fin d’année commenceront avec Thanksgiving ici aux Etats-Unis, comme d’habitude ce jeudi. Certains de nous conduirons de longues heures sur les routes hostiles, d’autres accommoderont des membres de leur famille pour plusieurs jours mettant quelquefois leur budget à mal, pendant que d’autres resteront seuls à la maison; ils préfèrent ne pas rendre visite à leurs parents à cause d’une dispute, un manque d’argent ou autre raison valable. Tout cela aura pour résultat du stress et des tensions. Combien d’entre nous se souviennent de cet événement particulier à cause d’une conversation difficile avec un parent ou un de vos beaux-parents ou pour un manque de communication de qui préparera le dîner ? Comment se manifeste déjà le stress pour vous et votre famille ? Recherche des cadeaux, préparation du menu, organisation du voyage. Cela vous emble-t- il familier ? Certainement !

Qu’est ce qui vous fait penser que ce doit être un événement stressant cette année encore ?

• Expérience Passée : « Ma Maman n’aime pas cuisiner, j’aurai à le faire »,

• la Crainte : « Je ne suis pas à l’aise car je dois prendre l’avion pour rendre visite à mes parents cette année »,

• Limitant la conviction : « Mon nouveau dans Lois est très différent de moi parce qu’ils sont X, Y, Z »

• l’Interprétation :« L’an dernier, ton Oncle Pierre m’a dit qu’il n’a pas aimé ma tarte, il ne m’aime pas »

Que peut-on faire pour que cet événement soit aussi significatif et joyeux que nous le souhaitons ?

Notre intention !

Cela semble être une chose facile à dire, n’est-ce pas ? C’est aussi une chose facile à faire si vous y pensez un moment. Nous avons tous la possibilité de faire de cette période un événement paisible et mémorable. Nous pouvons décider cette année de regarder cette période comme une occasion merveilleuse de célébrer notre réussite avec notre famille, nos parents et nos amis, être reconnaissant de ce que nous avons et reconnaissant aussi pour chaque expérience vécue et chaque personne qui a croisé notre chemin.

Pensons silencieusement à ce moment ou dans la situation particulière que nous appréhendons, et maintenant donnons nous la permission de réécrire la scène dans notre esprit tout simplement comme si nous étions le producteur d’une pièce.

Comment aimerions-nous réécrire cette scène ? De quoi a-t-elle l’air (utilisons tous nos sens : l’odorat, le toucher, l’ouïe , le goût, la vue) ? Que dirions-nous ? Comment réagiraient nos proches? Que ferions-nous ? A quel point nous sentirions nous paisible et heureux à ce moment particulier ? Maintenant profitez de cette sensation un moment.

Maintenant, nous pouvons déterminer notre intention !

Je nous suggère de noter ce que nous avons éprouvé durant ces 3 à 5 minutes de scénario et garder nos émotions présentes avec nous durant cette période des Fêtes de Fin d’Année avec l’intention de recréer cette scène et ces émotions !

N’hésitez pas à partager avec nous votre expérience Sans Stress de ces Fêtes S’il sur notre blog, vous pouvez rester anonyme 😉

Nous vous souhaitons d’Excellentes Fêtes.

Coaching ExperienceExpérience Partagée du Coaching

Nov 11 2011Oct 1 2020 Belinda MJ. Brown Testimonials

I was pleased to work with Yasmine because she is a wonderful person, strong and very intuitive. Already successful, Yasmine wanted to partner with someone who could assist her to keep herself motivated and on track with specific personal and professional goals. She shared below her coaching experience with Equanimity Executive, LLC through an interview:

Question 1: As you went through the coaching journey, how did it change things for you?

Yasmine V.: It is remarkable how you can think you are so focused on a goal and when you start having the one-on-ones with Belinda, you truly realize that in one week it is very easy to be sidetracked. Things changed for me when realizing this and it definitely helps to stay focused on what you want in life.

Question 2: Did you get what you hoped to get from coaching? Were your expectations met?

Yasmine V.: I wasn’t sure what to expect when starting this but thought I would give it a shot. I am very glad I did! Belinda truly assists you in digging deeper into yourself and get a better grasp on life, goals and any obstacles you might be faced with. Sometimes you feel like you know what you want and why…until Belinda comes along and asks questions that make you really look into yourself and unravel what it really is you’re looking for. We are often so stuck on the problems or obstacles we are faced with, we cannot see how we are ever going to overcome them and reach what we want. It seems to me that clarity is the key to achievement, reality seems to prove that. So yes my expectations were met 🙂

Question 3: What new strengths can you see you have developed from the experience?

Yasmine V.: I now finally have an understanding what intuition really is. Learned to recognize it and trust it (in most cases :-)). What individual would not want to have answers to their questions? Who knew they all lie within you and when allowing, all your questions will be answered… not by somebody else but by yourself!

Question 4: Is there a way I could have been a better coach for you?

Yasmine V.: Can’t think of anything.

Question 5: How did you surprise yourself through the coaching series?

Yasmine V.: By receiving answers to questions from within myself that a week before I was stuck on. It amazes me that those answers can just pop up in your head. Also recurring conversations and looking back to what was discussed really highlights all the wonderful items that happen to somebody in a short period of time.

Question 6: What was the thing you benefited from and/or enjoyed the most?

Yasmine V.: Being able to refocus every single week. Even when you think you are focused on your goals when having sessions with Belinda it truly helps to keep you on track. It is amazing how life throws things at you every day that kind of get you sidetracked.

It is extremely helpful to be able to speak with somebody who only holds your best interest at heart without putting their opinion on you somehow. That is exactly what Belinda does. She can hold an objective perspective and asks specific questions that make you think about a situation differently and this process for me has been eye-opening. Let’s face it even though we all love our friends when discussing personal experiences with them very often our friends will reply based on what their experience has been or is. Belinda focuses only on your experience which allows you to develop a different perspective and see clearly what the next step to take is.

Question 7: What do you see as the major insights or breakthroughs you made through coaching?

Yasmine V.I was able to achieve quite a few of my goals during the timeframe I had sessions with Belinda. And of course recognizing that intuition was one of the biggest gifts ever!

Question 8: What will you now do differently?

Yasmine V.: When stuck I am doing my best to stop and ask myself questions that make me see a different perspective. I trust my intuition more and more and now is the only place I look for answers. Diminishing self-doubt, general doubt and fear in general is something I have gained a different perspective upon.

Question 9: On the overall experience and how could you word this?

Yasmine V.: Working with Belinda was a blessing and has helped me to stay focused on the many goals I had set out. Even during the short time frame I was able to work with her, I have achieved quite a bit of those goals (they truly seemed impossible at one point in time). The possibility to share with her without her loosing perspective is priceless! – Yasmine V, Tarzana, CA – I was pleased to work with Yasmine because she is a wonderful person, strong and very intuitive. Already successful, Yasmine wanted to partner with someone who could assist her to keep herself motivated and on track with specific personal and professional goals. She shared below her coaching experience with Equanimity Executive, LLC through an interview: